Office relations, are they good or bad? I know some like to think that they will find their soul mate in numerous places; church, the grocery store, the gym or even work. However, when it comes to work crushes what if that person isn’t your soul mate and things turn sour, then what happens? I can say from personal experience that dating someone from work hasn’t always been a good idea. Also, I’ve never really been a fan of the whole mixing business and pleasure thing, but at the same time, I know a lot of people who have married someone from their job and are truly happy.
Think it out!
So, what I’m asking is: what is the true outlook on this situation? I’ve tried “talking” to guys at my past jobs, and even went on a date with one, and let me just say, that was the worst date I’ve ever been on in my life. Not to bash him, but if you think being too touchy feely, placing an order and eating before I even step foot in the restaurant and blacking out drunk is ideal, then you would of had a great time. No not me. Not to mention, when I returned to work everyone knew about our date. They didn’t know how much of an asshole he was, but they knew that he “wouldn’t go on another date with me and that I wasn’t his type.” Interesting! If being your type entails of me wanting to hear your drunken rants of how much money you make and how the mother of your 4-month-old child isn’t worth sh*t, then I’m glad I’m not your type. Oh, he also failed to mention how he got super wasted, blacked out drunk in my car and I had to basically break into his phone to find out where he lived.
Not only did he embarrass himself, but he also tried to embarrass me and that is not ok. He knew what he did was wrong, which is why he couldn’t even look me in the face whenever we passed. That made me laugh. I remained cordial because I did nothing wrong, and I feel people deserve second chances. However, it made me regret taking him up on his offer and it also made me make this one of my rules; no more dating guys from work. I’m not sharing this story to scare anyone or alter your way of thinking. However, I am sharing this to get you to think. This experience isn’t going to be the same for every person and some people truly do find their soulmates at work, I’ve witnessed it. Just be mindful of a few things before taking that leap.
- Make sure you’re truly comfortable with dating your co-worker.
- Establish some ground rules (i.e. PDA or no PDA and public relationship or private)
- Ask yourself, will this relationship effect your work or cause you to lose focus.
- God forbid things go south, will you be able to handle seeing them.
- Will you be able to remain friends?
Think it out! Don’t block any potential blessings because you’re scared, or have had a few bad experiences. But certainly think about it, write a list of pro’s and con’s and see which outweighs the other. Better yet, just take the chance! You only live once and if you’ve never snuck a kiss or two in your manager’s office, shit you might be missing out. Let me know your thoughts on this!
As Always, with Love – XO J