There is no doubt in my mind that every woman tends to feel some of the pressures that society has when it comes to their dating life. However, what about those who prefer to stay single or just play the field? Oh yes, there are some names that society has for those types of women. Miserable, difficult, loose, or the ever favorite “whore.” Yet, I am still confused as to who is in charge of dictating what’s acceptable and what’s not when it comes to dating. Where are these rules written and why have we collectively as a society decided that we must follow them?
Yes, there are those women who have this fairy-tale imagination that some guy is going to magically come into their life, sweep them off their feet, tell them they’re beautiful each day, then they live happily ever after. Don’t get me wrong, the bullshit sounds nice and it’s ok to believe in things as such. However, what about those who can actually read in between the lines and understands that everything that glitters isn’t like your favorite pair of sparkly UGG boots, but instead it’s just broken glass hidden within the sand.
One must be thinking, “oh how miserable she must be” or “someone needs to get laid.” But I hate to break it to you, you’re wrong. I am just a woman who loves single. I’ve had my share of relationships, some beautiful and some not. But even with those failed relationships, I am still not someone who believes that love can’t be this magical thing. Although I will say, that I am enjoying the many experiences and challenges that this single life has brought me.
Nowhere in this crazy mixed up world is there somewhere written that a woman must be tied down and bare a bunch of children to the first man that grasp her attention. It’s just not the ideal, but who am I to say. I’m just a half crazy, half sane 23-year-old trying to convince the world I’m really ok alone. I won’t expect people to relate, nor will I expect them to not pass judgement. However, what I will say is that they shouldn’t expect me to care.
“I am just a woman who loves single”
If one really must care about what society has to say and how they should live, then they simply aren’t living at all. Enjoying the single life does not mean you’re miserable, too difficult to deal with, you have loose morals or even you’re too much of a whore to commit. It just means you’re doing whatever the hell you want and you’re just like me. A woman who can sip alone, dance in the middle to whatever song, laugh at your flaws, and enjoy the hell out of the life you’re currently living right now. The next time you’re in a room full of couples just remember, just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re alone and just because they aren’t single doesn’t mean they can’t feel alone. – Xo J.